How can you learn public speaking through daily talks?

How many hours a day do you spend talking to your family, friends, colleagues or even strangers? The more often you spend talking to someone, the wider range of skill you have developed in speaking. The following are a range of skills that might have been developed through everyday talks: -

1.       Organizing your thoughts logically.

Instead of speaking out whatever flows into your mind, you need to find a logical order so that the listener can tract your points. This may be seen in the case of telling people direction or guiding on how to follow the procedures in our daily life.

2.       Adapting your message to the listener.

You may learn to respond different to different age group of people and people with different background knowledge. For example, you are a geology major. Two people ask you how pearls are formed. One is your roommate and the other is your nine-year-old niece.

Your response to the first listener maybe:

“When any irritant, say a grain of sand, gets inside the oyster’s shell, the oyster automatically secretes a substance called nacre, which is principally calcium carbonate and is the same material that lines the oyster’s shell. The nacre accumulates in layers around the irritant core to form the pearl.”

Your response to your niece may be:

“Imagine you are an oyster on the ocean floor. A grain of sand gets inside your shell and makes you uncomfortable. So you decide to cover it up. You cover it up with a material called mother-of pearl. The covering builds up around the grain of sand to make a pearl.”

3.       Story-telling skills

It is also essential to Change your tone of conversation according to the mood you want to create inside the hearers’ mind. For example, you’re telling a sad story to your friend. The first line of your conversation should be dull and depressing instead of starting off with a funny joke.

4.       Adapting to listener feedback.

Whenever you talk with somebody, you need to beware of that person’s verbal, facial and physical reactions. For example, you should not go on talking and talking when your friends stop responding you and trying to change the topic. You’ll have to realize that your topic is too boring, unrelated or insulting them.

Each and every day, we’re practicing these skills regularly without noticing it. They’re the most important communication skills you will need for public speaking. Most people who are able to communicate well in daily talk are capable of public speaking just as well. By the same way, improving in public speaking can make you into a better communicator in a wide range of situations such as discussion, meetings, conferences and presentations. 

How can public speaking enhance your life and career?

 

                 Public speaking is most likely to make a big difference to everyone’s life in any society. Many successful leaders and representative of the organizations around the world are capable of appearing and speaking in the public effectively. If you would be able to communicate and express yourself confidently in front of the public, you’ve done almost the half way of impressing the other person. "It is vital to be able to communicate with others. It adds at least 50% to your value,” Warren Buffett, the world's richest man, said in one 

BBC Interview in 2009. 

                Public speaking will change your personality into a more communicative person. Since in this world today social network has become one of the key factors to success, you should be able to involve yourself in a wider society and make connections through communication. In order to so, you’ll need confidence so that you can express yourself better to others and ensure that they will not misinterpret your speech. It will help bridge gaps in understanding, cooperation and set goals and objectives. So in this aspect, public speaking would improve your life by gaining more opportunity for your career.

                Moreover, your public speaking skill is one of the main factors which quantify your capability in any kind of work. Since almost all careers involve a lot of talking and negotiation, it would be impressive if you can speak convincingly to the other party. It could save time, money, and most importantly, strengthen trust and reliability. "Your careers will be determined largely by how well you speak, by how well you write, and by the quality of your ideas… in that order," MIT Professor Patrick Henry Winston once mentioned. Since the first step of communication is conveyed through speech, the impression you imposed on your listener tells them a bit about what type of a person you are.

                By appearing in public effectively, you will be able to make a difference in your business, community and perhaps even the world. By sharing your information with others, you're better able to increase the impact of your hopes, dreams, desires and goals for your life and the world around you. Once you can speak diplomatically, there will be more supporter and fans around you. And they could perform as part of the bridge to your goals.

                Poor public speaking skill may be one of the reasons why a lot of ideas by some of the most intelligent scientists are only discovered many years after their death. One of the possible reasons is that although they are highly intelligent and have written very useful information, they just cannot seem to put through to people what they are thinking about due to their lack of ability to communicate to a large group of people using public speaking techniques. In other words, no matter how professional you could be in your field of work, unless you know how to convey the correct information into your community, you will not be regarded as professional.

                So, all in all, I think public speaking is a medium of effective communication and it is inevitable that everyone of us should obtain this skill at one stage in our life in order to walk more comfortably to our destiny.